nói khí không phải

Forgive Me for Saying

Level 5

Meaning "Forgive me for saying this, but..." — it acts as a polite warning before you say something blunt.

How It Works

This pattern is a pragmatic hedge used to mitigate a "face-threatening act"—such as a criticism, unsolicited advice, or an awkward observation.

1. Breaking Down the Phrase

  • nói / hỏi: to say / to ask
  • khí: the Sino-Vietnamese word for "air" or "breath" (氣). Because the native Vietnamese word for "breath" (hơi) also means "a bit" or "somewhat", khí acquired this same secondary meaning through a semantic calque. In older Northern colloquial speech, khí was used as a direct replacement for hơi before adjectives (e.g., tôi khí mệt, khí đắt). However, this adverbial use of khí was only ever used for traits the speaker considers undesirable, never for positive traits. Today, this usage is mostly fossilized and rarely used outside of this specific set phrase and a few older Northern expressions.
  • không phải: incorrect / inappropriate. Here, it is short for không phải đạo or không hợp lẽ phải (contrary to proper etiquette, reason, or social norms).

2. Placement and Usage
Because it is a preparatory warning, it attaches to the beginning of a main clause. When making a statement, use nói khí không phải. When asking a probing or personal question, use the variant hỏi khí không phải. You can use it as a standalone phrase or add a first-person subject (Tôi nói khí không phải...). In natural spoken Vietnamese, the verbs nói and hỏi are frequently dropped entirely, so it is very common to start a sentence simply with Khí không phải (chứ), .... Both forms are overwhelmingly followed by the pragmatic particle chứ (e.g., Nói/Hỏi khí không phải chứ, ...).

3. Register and Nuance
This phrase belongs to spoken, conversational Vietnamese but is highly polite and deferential. It carries a slightly traditional or Northern flavor and is most frequently used by older generations or adults.

4. Important Distinctions
Casual sources sometimes call this an idiom, but linguists classify it strictly as a quán ngữ (pragmatic marker). The speaker doesn't actually believe their statement is factually wrong; it is purely a politeness strategy. Furthermore, unlike nói vô phép (which apologizes for the act of speaking out of turn or breaching hierarchy when speaking to elders), nói khí không phải apologizes for the potentially offensive or intrusive content of what is being said, and can easily be used with peers or subordinates.

Examples (5)

  1. Nói khí không phải, dạo này trông cậu hơi tiều tụy.

    I don't mean to offend, but you've been looking a bit run-down lately.

    Word by Word: Say a bit not right, recently look you slightly run-down.

    Used before making a personal observation that might be perceived as slightly intrusive.

  2. Tôi nói khí không phải chứ các vị đây thế là còn may.

    Forgive me for saying this, but you folks are actually quite lucky.

    Word by Word: I say a bit not right rather, plural-marker esteemed-person here like-that is still lucky.

    Adding the pronoun "tôi" and the particle "chứ" makes the delivery feel very natural and conversational.

  3. Nói khí không phải, xưa nay tôi thấy anh là người mẫu mực, không ngờ anh lại đào hoa thế.

    With all due respect, I always saw you as an exemplary person; I didn't expect you to be such a ladies' man.

    Word by Word: Say a bit not right, past now I see older-brother is person exemplary, not expect older-brother contrary-to-expectation peach-blossom like-that.

    Softens a blunt, potentially embarrassing observation about someone's character.

  4. Cháu nói khí không phải, cách làm này có vẻ không hiệu quả lắm.

    Forgive me for saying this, but this method doesn't seem very effective.

    Word by Word: Niece/Nephew say a bit not right, way do this have appearance not effective very.

    Used by a younger person to politely disagree or point out a flaw to an older person without causing them to lose face.

  5. Hỏi khí không phải chứ, tháng này anh kiếm được bao nhiêu?

    Forgive me for asking, but how much did you earn this month?

    Word by Word: Ask a bit not right rather, month this older-brother earn manage-to how-much?

    The variant "hỏi khí không phải" is used to soften a probing or personal question, overwhelmingly paired with "chứ" for a natural flow.

Common Mistakes

  • Placing the phrase at the end of the sentence as an afterthought.

    Dạo này trông cậu hơi tiều tụy, nói khí không phải.
    Nói khí không phải, dạo này trông cậu hơi tiều tụy.

    This is a preparatory hedge, so it normally goes at the very beginning of the sentence to warn the listener before the face-threatening statement is made. At the end it sounds like an afterthought.

  • Using it to confess your own fault instead of softening a statement directed at the listener.

    Nói khí không phải, hôm qua tôi quên nộp báo cáo.
    Của đáng tội, hôm qua tôi quên nộp báo cáo.

    "Nói khí không phải" warns of an upcoming criticism or blunt observation about the listener or situation. To confess your own fault or concede a mitigating truth, use "của đáng tội" (I must admit).

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nói khí không phảiLevel 5Forgive Me for Saying

Learn This First

To understand 'nói khí không phải', a learner needs to recognize it as a fixed idiomatic preface. It combines the verb 'nói' (to speak) with a negated Sino-Vietnamese construction that literally suggests 'the manner/spirit is not right', functioning as a polite 'forgive me for saying so' to mitigate social friction.

Words in This Pattern

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